The position of mother in Islam

The-position-of-mother-in-IslamAccording to Islamic teachings, the position of the mother is so high. We see that we are ordered by the Quran and the Narrations of the Infallibles to respect the parents so extremely. The holy Quran explicitly said in chapter verse:

وَقَضَى رَبُّكَ أَلاَّ تَعْبُدُواْ إِلاَّ إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلاَهُمَا فَلاَ تَقُل لَّهُمَآ أُفٍّ وَلاَ تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا

وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا

“Your lord has ordered you to worship none except him, and to be good to your parents. if either or both of them attain old age with you, do not say: “fie on you”, nor rebuke them, but speak to them with words of respect.

And lower to them the wing of humbleness out of mercy and say: ‘my lord, be merciful to them, as they raised me since i was little. ‘”

A man came to the holy Prophet of Islam and asked him:

O the messenger of Allah, to whom should I be good and kind? The Prophet replied: Your mother. The man asked: And then to whom? The Prophet answered: Your mother. The man asked the same question and the Prophet answered: Your mother. In the fourth time when the man asked the same question, the Prophet replied: Your father.

According to Islamic teachings the anger or the pleasance of Allah is related to the anger or the pleasance of the parents. This means that we must always make them satisfied with ourselves and must obey them except in the situations in which the orders or the satisfaction of the parents are against the orders of Allah, in such cases we are not allowed to obey the parents but even in such cases we must treat them kindly.

It is so shocking that in Islam we are prohibited to even look at the parents out of anger and wrath. Imam Sadiq peace be upon him said:

“The one who looks at his/her parents out of wrath, (even though) they have oppressed him/her, his/her prayer will not be accepted by Allah.”

The holy Prophet of Islam mentioned in a Narration that Paradise is under the feet of the mothers. The Islamic scholars describe this Narration in this way: If you want to enter in the Paradise, the way toward that is the satisfaction of the mother, and if your mother is not satisfied with you, you will not be allowed to enter the Paradise.