7 Rights of a Muslim Wife upon Her Husband

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Below are the 7 rights of a muslim wife upon her husband in Islam. Please share after reading.

1.  That he should make things easy upon her e.g. The chores and what he requires from her.

2. To be kind to her. The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “The best among you is the one who is the best towards his wife.”

3. A man should not hate his wife. Exalt the good and minimise her shortcomings. A man should not be angry at her faults and should look at her good. To look only good in her.

4.To spend upon her, to feed her. Not to be excessive in this and not to be stingy.

5. That the husband should be a reason for his wife to be saved from the hellfire. He should teach her and order her to forbid the evil and enjoy the good. Forbidding her from that which will lead to hell fire. O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed]angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allaah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.

6. A man must not boycott her and if he does (for a valid reason) he should do it inside of the home.

7. He should have the best manners with his wife. His wife should see the best of his manners. It is said that some men have the best manners out in the market , but when he goes home he is a ferocious lion! Kind to strange women in the markets but not to his wife in the home. The best of you are the best of you to your wives. There is no good in you if you want to help your friends but not your wife, there is no good in you if you are kind to your friends and not your wife. Combine the two , and that is good.

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Source:BYISLAM.COM
Retrieved from:Letter Of Peace newsletter (a part of the Guided Project)

7 Things to Strengthen the Husband-Wife Relationship in Islam

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According to the Quran, the purpose of marriage is to attain sukun (tranquility and peace), which can never be achieved through impulsive sexual fulfillment unless it is accompanied by mutual love, affection, caring, and sharing, which are all part and parcel of a fulfilling and productive marriage relationship. Islam, as we know it holistically from the sources, is a balanced way of looking at things.

Following are the 7 important factors that can InShaAllah strengthen a marriage relationship in Islam:

1-GOOD ATTITUDE
A Muslim must always have a positive attitude toward life. We say, “Alhamdulillah” (Praise be to Allah) for whatever He gives us (or doesn’t give us).

2-HELP
Our Prophet (peace be upon him) stressed the importance of men helping their wives and Allah tells us the importance of women being mates and helpers to their husbands. This is a real “win-win” situation, if we just follow it.

3-TRUST
Muslims, men and women are ordered to be trustworthy and follow the example of our prophet (peace be upon him) as the “Trustworthy”.

4-RESPECT
You get respect, when you give respect. This is mandatory for all Muslims toward all people, how much more toward the spouse?

5-FORGIVENESS

Clearly, this is one of the most important aspects of Islam. Whoever does not forgive – will not be forgiven. This comes from Allah, Himself. We must learn to forgive each others for a good relationship.

6-TIME
Spend time together. Go for walks. Take a bus ride. Visit a friend or someone who is ill (you get big rewards for that). Fast together on Mondays & Thursdays if you can. Make hajj – this is a great way to get a “new start” on life.

7-WORSHIP
Our prophet, peace be upon him, used to lead his wife in salat, even though he lived connected to the mosque. He told us not to make our homes like grave yards. We should offer some of our sunnah prayers at home.

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Source:BYISLAM.COM
Retrieved from:islamnewsroom.com

7 Secrets for Better Life in ISLAM

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Islam is the perfect way of life for those who know it as it is and Quran is a guide for the whole humanity to have a better life in this world as well as in the Akhira (the hereafter). Following are the 7  interesting lessons we can learn from the Quran to live a good life InShaAllah:

1-THE MOST SELFISH ONE LETTER WORD: “I” – AVOID IT!

[tabs type=”horizontal”][tabs_head][tab_title][/tab_title][/tabs_head][tab][/tab][/tabs]And he had property (or fruit) and he said to his companion, in the course of mutual talk: “I am more than you in wealth and stronger in respect of men.” [Surah Al-Kahf 18:34]

2-THE MOST SATISFYING TWO-LETTER WORD: “WE” – USE IT!

Say (O Muhammad SAW): “Shall we invoke others besides Allâh (false deities), that can do us neither good nor harm, and shall we turn on our heels after Allâh has guided us (to true Monotheism)? – like one whom the Shayâtin (devils) have made to go astray, confused (wandering) through the earth, his companions calling him to guidance (saying): ‘Come to us.’ ” Say: “Verily, Allâh’s Guidance is the only guidance, and we have been commanded to submit (ourselves) to the Lord of the ‘Alamîn (mankind, jinns and all that exists); And to perform As-Salât (Iqâmat-as-Salât)”, and to be obedient to Allâh and fear Him, and it is He to Whom you shall be gathered. [Surah Al-Anaam 6:71-72]

3-THE MOST POISONOUS THREE-LETTER WORD: “EGO” – KILL IT!

He said: “This has been given to me only because of knowledge I possess.” Did he not know that Allâh had destroyed before him generations, men who were stronger than him in might and greater in the amount (of riches) they had collected. But the Mujrimûn (criminals, disbelievers, polytheists, sinners, etc.) will not be questioned of their sins (because Allâh knows them well, so they will be punished without account). [Surah Al-Qasas 28:78]

4-THE MOST ESSENTIAL TEN-LETTER WORD: “CONFIDENCE” (TRUST IN ALLAH’S GUIDANCE) – TRUST IT!

Verily, those who believe [in the Oneness of Allâh along with the six articles of Faith, i.e. to believe in Allâh, His Angels, His Books, His Messengers, Day of Resurrection, and Al-Qadar (Divine Preordainments) – Islâmic Monotheism], and do deeds of righteousness, their Lord will guide them through their Faith; under them will flow rivers in the Gardens of delight (Paradise). [Surah Yunus 10:9]

Say: “Nothing shall ever happen to us except what Allâh has ordained for us. He is our Maulâ (Lord, Helper and Protector).” And in Allâh let the believers put their trust. [Surah Al-Tawbah 9:51]

5-THE MOST POWERFUL NINE-LETTER WORD : “KNOWLEDGE” (ABOUT ISLAM) – ACQUIRE IT!
By the Qur’ân, full of wisdom (i.e. full of laws, evidences, and proofs).. [Surah Yasin 36:2]

6-THE FASTEST SPREADING SIX-LETTER WORD: “RUMOUR” – IGNORE IT!
O you who believe! Avoid much suspicions, indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not, neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting) . And fear Allâh. Verily, Allâh is the One Who accepts repentance, Most Merciful. [Surah Al-Hujurat 49:12]

7-THE HARDEST WORKING SEVEN-LETTER WORD: “SUCCESS” – ACHIEVE IT!
Men whom neither trade nor sale diverts them from the Remembrance of Allâh (with heart and tongue), nor from performing As­Salât (Iqâmat-as-Salât), nor from giving the Zakât. They fear a Day when hearts and eyes will be overturned (from the horror of the torment of the Day of Resurrection). That Allâh may reward them according to the best of their deeds, and add even more for them out of His Grace. And Allâh provides without measure to whom He wills. [Surah Al-Nur 24:37-38]

If you sincerely follow these things, you got the ‘secret’ of living a better life! In short, an happy and better life can be InShaAllah attained only when you follow the Quran and Sunnah properly. The above listed things are very few, there are many things you can get when you understand the Quran. So, enjoy reading!

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SOURCE:BYISLAM.COM
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7 perfect way for Losing Weight Through Islam

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It seems unfair how easy it is to gain weight and how hard it is to lose it. All of us want to reach a standard of perfection when it comes to our body image: tanned, toned, and tiny. At the same time, we shouldn’t stress ourselves out about it too much! Not only should we remember that modesty is of our faith, but we also shouldn’t forget that stress is the silent killer. With that being said, here is what Islam gave us to solve the all-too-modern problem of weight gain…

1. RAMADAN:  Ramadan  is the perfect month to tune up our physical, mental, and spiritual health. The Prophet (SAW) said, “Fast the month of Ramadan so to heal your bodies from disease.” If, during this month, we eat only the pure and unprocessed foods that Allah has provided us with (such as fruits, vegetables, wheat, grain, and beans), we can be guaranteed weight loss. The Qur’an says, “They ask thee what is lawful to them as food. Say, ‘Lawful unto you are all things good and pure.’” (5:4) “And the earth we have spread out, and we have set firm mountains on it, and have made every kind of beautiful growth to grow on it.” (50:7) OF COURSE, OUR MAIN INTENTION FOR FASTING MUST BE DEVOTION TO ALLAH (SWT) – WEIGHT LOSS IS JUST ONE OF ITS POSITIVE RESULTS.

2. X OUT THE EXCESS: This speaks for itself. A good Muslim eats to live, not lives to eat. The Qur’an says,

“Eat and drink, but waste not by excess for God loves not the prodigals.” (7:31)

The Prophet (SAW) emphasized, “The stomach is the home of disease, and abstinence the head of every remedy. So make this your custom.” He (SAW) also warned, “No human ever filled a vessel worse than the stomach. Sufficient for any son of Adam are some morsels to keep his back straight. But if it must be, then one third for his food, one third for his drink, and one third for his breath.” Eat satisfying, but small, meals. The remaining food can be saved for later or donated to the poor. It’s important to remember that if you stuff yourself with food you not only run the risk of gaining weight, but become sluggish and tired. Also, as the Prophet (SAW) told us, the stomach is the home of disease, and the more unnecessary food you eat, the weaker your immune system may become.

3. EAT BREAKFAST:
Eating breakfast speeds up the metabolism of the body; it nourishes us early in the day so that we don’t eat meals late and then sleep on them. The Prophet (SAW) said, “Eat your meal at dawn, for there is blessing in the meal at dawn,” and “There is blessing in three things: the early morning meal, bread, and soup.”

4. DRINK SUFFICIENT WATER:
Not only does water aid in weight loss, but it also flushes toxins from the body and hydrates skin so that we glow! The Qur’an says,

“We made water essential for all life.” (21:30)

Instead of drinking unhealthy beverages like soda when you’re thirsty (which, incidentally, slows your metabolism and is a factor in tooth decay), try drinking more water. I personally do my best to have 8-10 glasses of water per day and it makes me feel great.

5. HAVE PATIENCE:
So many diets are ruined because people lose heart and go back to regular routine. The Qur’an says,

“Give glad tidings to those who exercise patience when struck with adversity and say, ‘Indeed, we belong to God, and to Him is our return.’ Such ones receive blessings and mercy from their Lord, and such are the guided ones.” (2:155)

The Prophet (SAW) said, “Tie your camel first, then trust in God.” It is crucial for us to “do our best and leave God to the rest”.

6-The five prescribed daily prayers
As well as their spiritual benefits, the five prescribed daily prayers also provide physical toning benefits to the body. And patience is often the greatest test we face when we decide to lose weight. However, the Qur’an says (2:155), “Give glad tidings to those who exercise patience when struck with adversity and say, ‘Indeed, we belong to God, and to Him is our return.’ Such ones receive blessings and mercy from their Lord, and such are the guided ones.”

7-Walk walk walk
Enjoy a good morning walk. Walk to work if you can. Have a little walk after every meal. Try to go the long way around to the shops or to and from home. Try to take a hilly street or when you’re walking in the park walk up a hill. Walk in the park after you wake up and walk as it is very good for a person to take in fresh air and be in natural surroundings as it is also a proven stress reliever. Take up walking as it is an amazing exercise and very easy to as you can do it at your own pace

 

7 Principles of Success in prophet’s life

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It is a well-known fact that the Prophet of Islam (p.b.u.h.) was the supremely successful man in the entire human history. But he was not just a hero, as Thomas Carlyle has called him. According to Quran, he was a good example for all mankind. He has shown us the way of achieving supreme success in this world.

By studying the life of the Prophet (p.b.u.h.), we can derive those important principles which were followed by the Prophet (p.b.u.h.). In short, the Prophet of Islam (p.b.u.h.) was a positive thinker in the full sense of the word. All his activities were result-oriented. He completely refrained from all such steps as may prove counter-productive.

First Principle: (To begin from the possible) This principle is well explained in a saying of Aishah. She said: “Whenever the Prophet (p.b.u.h.) had to choose between two options, he always opted for the easier choice.” (Al-Bukhari). To choose the easiest option means to begin from the possible, and one who begins from the possible will surely reach his goal.

Second Principle: (To see advantage in disadvantage) In the early days of Makkah, there were many problems and difficulties. At that time, a guiding verse in Quran was revealed. It said: “With every hardship there is ease, with every hardship there is ease.” (94/5-6). This means that if there are some problems, there are also opportunities at the same time. And the way to success is to ignore the problems and avail the opportunities.

Third Principle: (To change the place of action) This principle is derived from the Hijrah. Hijrah was not just a migration from Makkah to Madinah. It was to find a more suitable place for Islamic work, as history proved later on.

Fourth Principle: (To make a friend out of an enemy) The prophet of Islam (p.b.u.h.) was repeatedly subjected to practices of antagonism by the unbelievers. At that time Quran enjoined upon him the return of good for evil. And then, as Quran added, “You will see your direst enemy has become your closest friend” (41/34).
It means that a good deed in return of a bad deed has a conquering effect over your enemies. And the life of the Prophet is a historical proof of this principle.

Fifth Principle: (To turn minus into plus) After the Battle of Badr, about 70 of the unbelievers were taken as the prisoners of war. They were educated people. The Prophet (p.b.u.h.) announced that if any one of them would teach ten Muslim children how to read and write, he would be freed. This was the first school in the history of Islam in which all of the students were Muslims, and all of the teachers were from the enemy rank. Here I shall quote a British orientalist who remarked about the Prophet of Islam (p.b.u.h.): “He faced adversity with the determination to wring success out of failure.”

Sixth Principle: (The power of peace is stronger than the power of violence) When Makkah was conquered, all of the Prophet’s (p.b.u.h.) direst opponents were brought before him. They were war criminals, in every sense of the word. But the Prophet (p.b.u.h.) did not order to kill them. He simply said: “Go, you are free.” The result of this kind behavior was miraculous; they immediately accepted Islam.

Seventh Principle: (Not to be a dichotomous thinker) In the famous Ghazwa of Muta, Khalid Bin Walid decided to withdraw Muslim forces from the battlefield because he discovered that the enemy was disproportionately  outnumbered. When they reached Madinah, some of the Muslims received them by the word “O Furrar” (O deserters!) The Prophet said: “No. They are Kurrar (men of advancement).”

Those Madinan people were thinking dichotomously, either fighting or retreating. The Prophet said no. There is also a third option, and that is to avoid war and find a time to strengthen yourself. Now history tells us that the Muslims, after three years of preparation, advanced again towards the Roman border and this time they won a resounding victory.

In the end, I would like to repeat those  principles of success:

1. To begin from the possible
2. To see advantage in disadvantage
3. To change the place of action
4. To make a friend out of an enemy
5. To turn minus into plus
6. The power of peace is stronger than the power of violence
7. Not to be a dichotomous thinker

Source: alrisala.org

7 Important points of success

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1-Imam Ali (A.S) says:

“On the Day of Judgement a hospitable believer will arise from his grave in such a condition that his face will be shining like the disc of the moon.

The people will wonder and think within themselves as to whether he is a Prophet. However, the angel accompanying him will introduce him and say`:

“He is the man who was hospitable and entertained hid guests and thus he has no way other than that of entering Paradise”.

(Biharul Anwar, vol.XV, p.242)

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2-Imam Jafar Sadiq (A.S) said to a man:

“What is meant by a young person [Al-Fata] in your estimation?”

The man replied, “A youth.” The Imam (A.S) replied, “No, the young person [Al-Fata] is the true believer. Surely the Companions of the Cave [Ashab Kahf] were all old people, however Allah, Glory and Greatness be to Him, called them youth who believed in Him.”

Al-Kafi, Volume 8, Page 395 and 595

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3-The Holy Prophet (PBUH) said:

“Ask (questions from) the learned, speak with the wise, and associate with the poor.”

Tuhaf-ul-‘Uqul, p. 34

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4-Imam Ali (A.S) said: First of all place the knowledge and recognition of the one you are worshipping in your heart, soul, spirit and life. Find out fully who you are worshipping so that all the actions you do with all of your body parts and senses can be counted as your prayers and worship in order that all those prayers can benefit you, otherwise prayers without recognition of the one who you are worshipping, will have no use for you.
Source: [Tohaful Oqool, Page 223]

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5-Imam Al-Baqir (peace be upon him) has said: “Allah’s remembrance of ‘people who pray’ is greater and superior to their remembrance of Him. Do you not observe that He has said (in the Noble Qur’an): {Remember Me and I shall remember you.}”‌1
Biharul Anwar, Volume 82, Page 199
Note:
1. The Noble Qur’an, Surah Baqarah, Verse 152.

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6-The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said:

“One who desires a long life and an increase in livelihood should exhibit goodness towards his parents and establish bonds of kinship (with his relatives).”‌
Kanzul `Ummal, Volume 16, Page 475

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7-Imam Ali (A.S) said: “When a person stands up for prayers, Iblis approaches him and looks at him with envy and jealousy, as he sees the Mercy of Allah encompassing the person.”‌

Biharul Anwar, Volume 82, Page 207

 

Material and spiritual lifestyle, the attitude of Islam

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Imam Ar-Ridha’ (a.s.) said:
إِعْمَلْ لِدُنْياكَ كَأَنَّكَ تَعِيشُ أَبَداً وَ إِعْمَلْ لاِخِرَتِكَ كَأَنَّك تَمُوتُ غَدَاً

Translation
Work for the world as if you would be alive forever, and work for the hereafter as if you would die tomorrow! 1

Brief Description
This tradition clarifies the attitude of Islam towards the matters concerned with material and spiritual life. A positive and responsible Muslim should observe discipline in the matters concerned with material life as if he would abide there forever. This clearly rejects the idea that one has to shun this world to be a true ascetic.
At the same time he should be extremely concerned about the state of his readiness for the life after death. So much so that he should be convinced that if he were to die tomorrow, he would not be found wanting or deficient in any aspect. In other words, he should keep himself ready for death at any moment by ensuring that he has purified himself with the water of real repentance for his misdeeds and has settled his dues and made arrangements such that he leaves the world without any loose ends in matters of his obligations and rights of others.[divider]
•    1. Sayings of the Imams volume 2, page 277. Men La Yahtharuhu AlFaqih, vol 3, page 156. Wasa’il Al-Shia, vol 17, page 76.

Your intellect will be tried by these three

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Imam ‘Ali (a.s.) said:
ثَلاثٌ يُمْتَحَنُ بِهَا عُقُولُ الرِّجالِ هُنَّ المالُ وَ الْوِلايَةُ و الْمُصِيبَةُ

Translation
There are three things based on which intellect of dignified individuals is tried: wealth, rank, and calamity. 1

Brief Description
Divine trials are the means of development and improvements and they do not have special tools.
Man may be tested by any means, but three of them are more important than the others:
– whether or not he loses his intellect and wisdom when he gains property and wealth?
– when a rank is awarded to him, whether his capacity is so fragile that he forgets everything?
– and when an unpleasing event happens to him, does he become impatient and ungrateful ?[divider]
•    1. Ghurar al-Hakam

What is the true asceticism in Islam?

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The Holy Prophet of Islam (peace be upon him and his progeny) said:
اَلزُّهدُ فى الدُّنْيا قَصْرُ الأَمَلِ وَ شُكْرُ كُلّ نِعْمَة وَ الوَرَعُ عَنْ كُلِّ ما حَرَّمَ اللّهُ

Translation
Asceticism in this world is based on three things: curtailment of desires, thanksgiving for blessings, and avoiding the prohibited things. 1

Brief Description
Most people misunderstand the concept of Islamic asceticism and consider it as isolation and separation from material and social life. They define ascetics as those who practice seclusion from society and abstention from all material pleasures of social life.
True asceticism is in fact based on a corrective social concept as stipulated in the above tradition.
It includes protection of rights of others , keeping away from illegitimate and unlawful wealth, and using one’s resources for worthy and humanitarian purposes (which is the real concept of thanksgiving) as well as minimizing one’s desires for material things which , if unchecked, can lead man to dissociate from everything other than the pursuit of money, position and lust.[divider]
•    1. Tuhaful Uqul, page 58. Al-Kafi, vol 5, page 71. Wasa’il Al-Shia, vol 17, page 15. AlKhisal, vol 1, page 14.

Hasty action is a kind of insanity

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Imam ‘Ali (a.s.) said:
اَلْحِدَّهُ نَوْعٌ مِنَ الْجُنُونِ لاِنَّ صاحِبَها يَنْدَمُ فَإن لَمْ يَنْدَمْ فَجُنُونُها مُسْتَحْكَمٌ

Translation
Hastiness and precipitance is a kind of insanity and those having this attribute repent of their actions very soon, or (if they continue on this path) it shows that their insanity is perpetual and firmly ingrained in them.1

Brief Description
Intellect and wisdom dictate that one avoids undue haste and precipitance because in this condition one often fails to adequately study all the relevant aspects to make a correct decision. And soon one has to repent for the consequences of his naive and impulsive actions.
Sometimes, man dissipates the worth of all of his good speeches by one hasty inappropriate remark, and loses his old intimate friends and that jolts him into sincere repentance.
As for those who do not desist even after observing the bad consequences of their hasty actions, they can be said to suffer from insanity that is ongoing and well entrenched.[divider]
•    1. Nahjul Balaghah